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July 22, 2017

Dealing with Toxic Trolls

Dealing with on line Trolls – Have you ever spent time arguing with a complete stranger on line?

 

Dealing with Toxic Trolls on line

If you have – then You are not alone, for anyone who has written or re-posted an article, they personally believed had merit, you unwittingly open the door to the world’s ……Toxic Trolls.

These later date art, fashion, food and lifestyle critics represent an ever increasing hazard………..(and sometimes comical, side show).

If you are unfortunate to be chafed by these sort of people, the best course of action is to quickly take a reality pill and Remember: toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you simply become privy to their long, draining monologues.

Trolls thrive off the drama and they live for it. Each and every time you attempt to provide a point that counters their ridiculous assertions, you feed them. What-ever you do – Don’t feed the narcissists – rather sit back and understand; their abusive behavior is their problem, not yours.

 

Dealing with Toxic Trolls

 

These fleas in the armpit of humanity, (known by shrinks as Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths), use a number of simple tactics in their attempts to silence you, they fall under the following loose headings:

 

Projection

One sure sign of a toxic troll, is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings, using everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them. This is known as projection.

“Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behavior and traits by attributing them to someone else. It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability”.

 

Dealing with Toxic Trolls

 

While we all engage in projection to some extent or another, according to Narcissistic Personality clinical expert Dr. Martinez-Lewi, the projections of a narcissist are often psychologically abusive.

Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects.

 

Gaslighting

“Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or members of a group, hoping to make targets question their own memory, perception, and sanity”.

Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the target and delegitimize the target’s belief.

 

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While the term owes its origin to a 1938 play Gas Light and its 1944 film adaptation, it is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in the content you post.

 

 

Mind Reading

Toxic Trolls often presume they know what you’re thinking and feeling. They jump to conclusions based on their own beliefs, rather than stepping back to evaluate the post mindfully and reading your article in full. They post comments based on their own delusions and fallacies and make no apologies for the harm they cause as a result.

 

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Notorious for putting words in your mouth, they depict you as having an intention or outlandish viewpoint you don’t possess. In the hands of a Troll (malignant narcissist or sociopath), your differing opinions, research and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.

 

 Shaming

“You should be ashamed of yourself” is a favorite saying of toxic trolls. In the realm of the narcissist or sociopath, shaming is an effective method that targets any behavior or belief that might challenge a toxic person’s power.

If a writer dares to be proud of their work, a Troll will try to shame them, in the hope it will diminish the writer’s sense of self and stifle any pride they may have in their work.

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Aggressive jabs disguised as jokes

Covert narcissists enjoy making malicious on line comments at your expense. These are usually dressed up as “just jokes” so that they can get away with saying appalling things while still maintaining an innocent, cool demeanor.

Yet any time you are outraged at an insensitive, harsh remark, you are accused of having no sense of humor. This is a tactic frequently used in verbal abuse.

 

Name-calling

Trolls blow anything they perceive as a threat to their superiority out of proportion. In their world, only they can ever be right and anyone who dares to say otherwise creates a narcissistic injury that results in narcissistic rage.

As Mark Goulston, M.D. asserts, narcissistic rage does not result from low self-esteem but rather a high sense of entitlement and false sense of superiority.

The worst trolls will resort to name-calling when they can’t think of a better way to manipulate your opinion or manipulate your emotions. Name-calling is a quick and easy way to put you down degrade you and insult your intelligence and it works.  A Psychological study carried out in 2014, found that swearing and name-calling in Internet discussions, shuts down our ability to think.

 

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Moving the Goal Posts

Trolls employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you. This is when, even after you’ve provided all the evidence in the world to validate your argument or taken an action to meet their request, they set up another expectation of you or demand more proof.

Their ultimate plan is that by pointing out one irrelevant fact or one thing you did wrong and developing a hyper-focus on it, narcissists get to divert from your strengths and pull you into obsessing over any flaws or weaknesses instead.

 

 

Silencing a Troll

Taking on these toxic trolls is a complete waste of time, as they cannot see the difference between constructive and destructive criticism. You have to remember these self proclaimed “critics” just want to nitpick and pull you down in any way they can.

Because you’re actually arguing with a toxic narcissist (a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves); your disagreement picked at their false belief that they are omnipotent and omniscient, resulting in a narcissistic injury, so says Dr Sam Vaknin, in his book The Intermittent Explosive Narcissist.

 

 

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The future for Toxic Trolls

By 2017, it is reported that there will be around 3.6 billion Internet users—more than 48% of the world’s projected population (Cisco Newsroom). This ever increasing number of users ………unfortunately means an ever increasing number of anally retentive plebs.

 

Just maybe the key boards of the future will have the facility to list the top Toxic Trolls and award them with their own merit badges; at least they will have achieved something in their own insulated world!

 

 

See quick fire responses to Trolls in our post Retorts to Retards.

 

See more on the tactics, the ever increasing Narcissists, Sociopaths and Psychopaths Use to Silence You read Shahida Arabi, author of the book POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

 

 

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